Do you know who you really are?
Do you know what makes you happy, and what makes you sad? What you’re good at, and not so good at? What ticks you off, and what calms you down? What drives you, and what drains the life out of you?
These are just a few of the endless list of questions that we’re able to answer when we really know who we are.
But the truth is, we know only so little about ourselves. And getting to know ourselves better takes time. A lot of time.
You won’t be able to answer all of these questions at once, and that is okay.
Learning about yourself happens over time. And it never ends because we keep growing and evolving.
Who you are today is not exactly the same as who you were yesterday. Yes, the core of who you are is likely still the same, but some things about you changed.
We are constantly influenced by the environment we’re in, the people we surround ourselves with, the content we consume… you name it.
But knowing who you are today is still worth it.
Building a secure sense of self starts with knowing who you really are, because it’s only then that you would be able to wholeheartedly accept yourself.
Getting to really know yourself is like getting to know someone new.
The first time you see someone, you instantly make judgments about them based on your preconceived ideas. More often than not, it happens automatically. You may not even be aware that you’re doing it.
It’s the same with you. You’ve heard people say things about you that may or may not be true. And sometimes, they cloud your judgement of you.
When we’re born, we feel free to do whatever we like and be however we like. We’re not too worried about how people judge us.
But as we grow older, we become more conscious of how others perceive us — the remarks they make.
And it isn’t always easy to accept the different aspects of yourself. Just like you can be in denial of some traits in others, you could also be in denial about some of your own traits.
So how do you get to know who you really are? Start asking “why?”
When you catch yourself angry, happy, sad — ask yourself “why?” to dig deeper. Get to the root of what caused you to feel that way. Get to know what matters to you and why.
It’s a never ending process because we are all as deep as the universe, but it is all worth it.
Keep discovering you,
Nadee